Perfectionism can look so “high functioning” from the outside. You’re getting things done. You’re responsible. You’re the one people count on. And yet inside, it can feel like you’re living with a constant hum of pressure, as if you loosen your grip for even a second,...
When couples come into my office feeling stuck, there’s a pattern I hear again and again, often with different details, different histories, different pain points, but the same emotional choreography underneath. One partner feels like they’re always reaching:...
What virtual EMDR sessions actually look like and how we keep the work safe, effective, and grounded. If you’ve been searching for online EMDR therapy, you might be wondering the same thing most people ask at first: Can EMDR really work through a screen? It’s a fair...
Sometimes clients (usually newer to me and just getting to know me) apologize for researching a counseling method or approach I may use in my office. They may research EMDR for a certain type of anxiety or a polyvagal technique to help understand their parasympathetic...
Welcoming your first baby can feel like stepping into a new life overnight. One day you’re a couple with familiar rhythms, private jokes, and a sense of how you “do life” together. And then, there’s this tiny person who needs you constantly, and everything you thought...
When I work with new fathers, it’s in the back of my mind that I am meeting someone in the middle of a profound life transition, one that is rarely named with the same depth or care as motherhood. Becoming a father reshapes identity, relationships, emotional capacity,...
In my work as an integrative therapist, I often meet new parents during one of the most tender and disorienting seasons of their lives. They arrive, loving their baby deeply, yet feeling anxious, unsettled, and unsure of themselves. Many are surprised by how intense...
When I sit with someone who has just lost their life partner, I know I am entering one of the deepest grief-stricken emotional landscapes a person can endure. The grief that follows this kind of loss is layered and complex, touching the emotional, physical,...
When a client comes to me after a divorce (whether 3 months or 5 years after), I often notice a quiet complexity beneath the surface. The initial crisis has passed. The paperwork is done, the logistics of separation have settled, and the acute waves of grief may have...
Divorce can be one of life’s deepest heartbreaks. For other individuals, divorce can be a new and happy beginning right from the start. For individuals going through a divorce where this is a happy time for them, this blog post is NOT for you. This may be hard for...
