In many relationships, love is not absent. It is there in the effort, the concern, the loyalty, the reaching, the small gestures, and the desire to feel close. Yet love can still feel strangely difficult to experience when one or both partners have a hard time...
Love is not only about how we give. It is also about how we receive. Some people deeply want closeness, partnership, affection, reassurance, and emotional safety. They want to feel chosen, supported, understood, and cared for. Yet when love is actually offered,...
Hyper-independence can look like strength from the outside. It may look like competence, responsibility, resilience, discipline, or the ability to keep going even when life feels difficult. In many ways, hyper-independence often begins as a deeply adaptive response....
When couples come into my office feeling stuck, there’s a pattern I hear again and again, often with different details, different histories, different pain points, but the same emotional choreography underneath. One partner feels like they’re always reaching:...
Welcoming your first baby can feel like stepping into a new life overnight. One day you’re a couple with familiar rhythms, private jokes, and a sense of how you “do life” together. And then, there’s this tiny person who needs you constantly, and everything you thought...
Affair recovery, in terms of my clinical practice, is when two individuals have created a monogamous partnership and have agreed on specific boundaries, and one partner feels there has been an affair that has stepped over these boundaries. People have different...
